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Brenda’s got a baby by artist 2Pac

In this song, 2Pac speaks about Brenda who got pregnant at age 12 by a molester. Her family didnt notice and/or care. She fell in love with her molester and hoped he would stick around, but he left. She gave birth on a bathroom floor, decided she couldnt keep the baby, threw the baby away into a dumpster, and changed her mind because she couldn’t abonded a baby crying out to it’s mama.

Now she has a baby to support. Her family turned their back on her, and she turned to prostution to make ends meet.

2Pac is one of my personal heros because he fights for equality and compassion. Its easy to label females working the streets, but everyone has a story.

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What I recently learned about women, unicorns and life

I was recently sitting at creative agency powerpoint presentation, and I walked away with an unexpected gift.

The creative director and account director of 1trickpony were sharing their thoughts on how to create a “red hot brand” that inspires people to take action. A brand must have purpose, and it must be fearless. To drive home their point, they shared this Dove commercial. Now, it is 8 years old, but news to me. So, don’t judge me lol.

After I seen this, I was pretty floored. It made me realize how I’ve been chasing women that don’t exist! I’ve been chasing unicorns!

Not in that sense, because unicorns do exist, but in the sense that I’ve allowed myself be programmed to someone’s notion of beauty.

Now that I can see, I feel I can better focus my energies on things that really matter to me. I hope that commercial also inspires you to feel good, beautiful and free.

 

 

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why my friends and family mean the world to me

To be honest, I am unsure if this blog post is about me or about my friends. I am sure about the reason for this post. It’s to show thanks and appreciation for the people that support me in all that I do. In the times when my shoulders are heavy and my knees weak, my friends and family are the ones that keep me  moving.

I turned 30 years young on July 5th. All my friends had wild celebrations for their 30th. One of my closest friends had a grand banquet reception that we dubbed “Tom’s Wedding/Birthday Celebration.” Not because he was getting married at the same time, but because it was a banquet hall reception that rivaled most wedding receptions. So, what I’m saying is the pressure was on for a extravagant 30th bday fiesta.

But this year I didn’t want to do anything. I was a little down. There is definitely pressure I put on myself at this age. There are important goals and ambitions that I haven’t realized. I simply wanted to spend my birthday alone, with my dog, walking a trail or forest preserve. If a close friend wanted to join or my immediate family, I would appreciate that.

When invited to go to Nashville for the weekend by my friend Basia, I declined. When invited a second time two days before departure, I declined again. Luckily for me, hours before departure, my sister talked me into reconsidering. I think she knew it would be good for me. So off I went!

I am grateful I went. First off, I didn’t have to organize a single thing (Basia, you did an awesome job. Thank you!) I stayed at a beautiful house, ate delicious breakfast/lunch/dinner and drank drinks. All I did in return was pay a small fee.

My friends know I am vegan and always accommodate me. My buddy waited for 20 minutes in line to get me a vegan breakfast sandwich. He also made me vegan tacos. The group also got me a vegan birthday cake! Man it was awesome!

On the day of my birthday, we went to a bar. A live band was playing. They paid the band to play happy birthday while they threw me up on their shoulders like some war hero. They got the whole bar to celebrate with me for a moment. Then the band invited my friend and I to sing a song onstage (I’m not a good singer and that might be the last time the band did that lol).

I think all these things have happened because my friends like and respect me for who I am. I think that’s awesome because I sometimes have a hard time respecting and liking who I am lol. Its these types of experiences and support that help me keep moving forward and reaching towards the things outside my reach. I know one day I will get where I am going, and I don’t want to forget the friends, family and experiences that helped me through the tough times.

On that note, thank you and lots of love to you all! Thank you for the adventures in Nashville!

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Tiling a Bar

This bar job was quite a challenge, both physically and emotionally.

Physically, it was a lot of grouting, since there is a lot of small tiles. The edges didn’t have finishing trim, so it took a little bit of work to make everything smooth and even.

Emotionally, the finished product was a little upsetting. It came really nice, but I feel the customer wasn’t 100 percent pleased. Well, I know it actually because he let me know that lol.

Why?

All in all, I Iearned a very valuable lesson from this job. Mostly, that I’m making money, getting paid for the experience and life is good.

Thank you client and bar tiling job. Onto the next.

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non leather steel toe construction work boot

Non-leather steal toe construction work boots

I recently purchased a pair of boots for construction. I was ripping out old flooring, and there were nails everywhere. I wanted to be sure my foot is protected, so I bought a real nice, slip-resistant, steel toe, non-leather construction work boot from K-Mart. These boots are called Maximus, and they are made by a company called Texas Steer. They were under $30, protect my feet from nails, look real good, have a thick sole and not made from animal skin.